“Scrape-y” people come into my life. Some of you might also know these people by another name: “Sandpaper People” (a phrase coined by Mary Southerland who wrote a book with the same title).
Scrapey people are the people that rub me wrong… and raw.
Some days I have absolutely no strength or patience to deal with the “scrapeys”. I avoid them like I’d avoid a wild animal; turn and briskly walk in the opposite direction…hoping to not bring attention to myself as I quietly sneak away to safety.
El Dorado Hills really is a tiny town. Being such, I can count on running into a scrapey someone at Raleys when I’m physically and emotionally tapped. Thank goodness there are now TWO grocery stores (with the addition of Nugget) to increase the odds in my favor of getting in-and-out of a store without running into a wall of sandpaper!
Now, I know what you’re thinking, so let me stop you now: if you’ve ever run into me at a store, or I into you, I PROMISE: you are not on my scrapey list!
Infact, what I’m learning is that my list of scrapey people is a lot like clouds. Ever changing, moving and taking on new forms. Some days are blissful, not a cloud in the sky; it’s a sunshiny day and I am at peace with the world. Other times, storms appear; the sky is filled with ominous clouds and the sun is nowhere to be found. Everywhere I look, I see clouds; sometimes it’s so bad I’m stuck in fog…
Thank goodness most of my days are mild with a few clouds here and there. Just like the clouds, most of the people that appear on my scrapey list eventually disappear. The actual person isn’t gone from my life, rather, they just don’t bother me anymore, and I’m not getting rubbed wrong. Infact, sometimes these are my favorite people. I’m sure it’s my perspective that changes, cause typically people’s personalities don’t change.
I recently heard that every person we contact is either looking to receive or give love. I’ve really thought about this phrase a lot lately, and have decided it’s pretty accurate. Scrapey people are looking for love, and I can change my perspective as soon as I give love. Clearly this is easier said than done.
Anyways, that’s the point I wanted to share with you today: when you run into someone are you looking to give or get love?
1 John 4:7 (NIV) Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.