Dragonflies are my favorite people. Yes people. Butterflies too. Both are stories of transformation.
In my work, I have the honor of watching dragonflies in the making. Be it through creativity or life coaching—the beautiful souls I work with are climbing and changing. And once the change happens they simply have no reason to wish to return to how things once were.
It matters not how high or low they fly—the fact is THEY FLY. With purpose, direction, and new creative ways of expressing themselves.
It’s a beautiful thing. Flight.
Do you know the story of the dragonfly?
Well let me tell you a true tale.
FROM THE POND: SUZIE’S STORY
Deep beneath the surface of a tranquil pond Suzie was part of a village of happy water bugs. They were a wonderful community in the warm mud and clay.
Every now and then, someone in the village would crawl up the stem of a lily after losing interest of mud-play. Gradually the village would lose sight of them, and their friend would never be seen again.
Suzie watched these things closely. Puzzled and curious she said to her friends, “Where do you suppose our friends go? Weren’t they happy here?”
No one had an answer. Some wondered about these things, but others seemed happy in their little mud hole, never questioning about who or why. While others seemed determined to not mention those who’d left the village. One might even consider them…angry.
But the Suzie was strong-minded. She was going to find out more. One day after much thought she told her friends, “I am going to do it!”
“Do what?” they said.
“I’ve decided I’m going to do something new. I’m going to climb up the pond lily stalk. I want to see what’s up there. Then I’ll return and tell you what I’ve learned.”
On a warm spring day, Suzie found herself climbing up the stalk. Before long, she broke through the surface of the pond water, and crawled on a thick round lily pad. Being so exhausted from her initial work and journey up the stalk, she napped.
When she woke, she was shocked at what she saw. A startling change had come to her body. There on her back were four beautiful silvery wings. She felt an impulse to move her wings, but couldn’t. At least not yet. While she waited in the warmth of the sun, she was taught important things. She watched and listened and learned. Soon she tried to move her wings again, this time she found herself off the lily pad.
She stopped and landed back on the pad. And again, she fluttered her wings and lifted high above the pond. And before long she was gracefully flying about. Filled with joy and freedom like she’d never known before.
She’d become a graceful dragonfly.
After a time she came to rest upon the old lily pad. As she watched her reflection in the water, she could see her old friends the water bugs below. Still wiggling about the mud and clay below. OH how they were missing out on so much freedom! She remembered her promise to tell them of the things she learned.
Without another thought she took flight, then darted back down to the water, hoping to dive below and tell her friends of the things she’d found. As she hit the water, she immediately bounced off the surface and back into the air. Over and over she tried to no avail. Seems that dragonflies could no longer return to their former existence.
She could not return to her life in the mud and clay. She had done and learned a new thing. And in that process, she transformed into a new beautiful life.
JUST LIKE SUZIE
And so it is with my clients and students. Doing a new thing can seem odd and even scary. Life coaching, creativity and art classes? Those words make some curious, interested, excited. While it can stop others in their tracks with fear. But with me, there is never fear. Never-ever.
Maybe you’re a bit like sweet Suzie, the thought of climbing up the stalk stirred something inside of her. It’s a little bit of hope in the depths of murky waters. Sometimes the Suzie’s of this world are stuck in mud and clay. But they are certain there must be something worth investigating beyond the village they know.
And when they start to climb—one coaching session—or one creativity workshop—after the next—they change. Sometimes it’s hard work, other times it’s easy. But without exception, doing these new things stirs beauty into the soul that transforms. It’s a transformation that allows you to fly.
So let me gently challenge you: When is the last time you’ve done something for the first time?
If it’s been too long, or you can’t recall… what could you do “for the first time?”
First times stir change.
First times give you the experience of climbing up the stalk.
They give you the urge to move wings you didn’t know you had.
Maybe it’s clearing out a room of things that have no purpose in your life. Or taking dancing lessons. Learning art journaling. Seeking therapy. Getting involved in a humanitarian effort. A daring hair color, or…yes, even a tattoo. How about joining a small group? Or building muscles you haven’t felt in years with the help of a personal trainer. Or yes, even learning to fly via life coaching.
You can leave the village and fly. Oh yes. Even you.