We see you. I see you.
I mean I really. do. see. you.
It includes the good, the bad, the ugly.
This is what I do for a living. Seeing the truth.
I also know that you see yourself.
The ugly, the bad, the good.
The difference between what I see, and what you see, is the order in which we perceive each other. Right?
Recently I was doing some self-portrait work with a beautiful soul. And I’m not gonna lie, self-portrait work is…not easy. It’s hard. And I think I forget how hard it is, maybe because I force myself to do it often.
But in watching this person do self-portrait work for the first time, I painfully remembered how difficult it is. I recalled the overwhelmingly “naked” feeling it produces. Because you are staring at yourself. And being critical. And you are supposed to manipulate your image. To make it “more of something.” And that something — whether it be more “good, bad, ugly” — can be scary.
And yet it’s also healing. There is a very good thing that happens when working with your TRUE image. But wait, there is something you need know.
What is even more healing…? Having your portrait done for you.
When this person left my studio, I took the VERY SAME image they worked with of themselves, and painted what I saw. Which I feel/know to be truth. I didn’t over-glorifiy anything. Just created what I saw. Which in the end is a haunting, mysterious, deep-soul of a person. Beautiful.
This one person’s experience… is common. VERY COMMON.
You, me, we are hard on our ourselves. We just are. But others see truth. More truth than we see. Isn’t that a bit odd? And yet it is so absolutely true.
I want to prove this to you… watch this video. Please.
You’ll see. It’s only 3 minutes long. Please watch.
(extended version HERE if you’re interested <—more amazing reactions, breath catching)
The next time someone says, “I love your hair” or “You have pretty eyes” or “Wow you are in great shape” or “Have you lost weight” or “That color looks fabulous on you” — please know, it’s truth. Truer than you are willing to see.
And if you are having a hard time with their truth, instead of dismissing it like we all tend to do–all you have to do is say: Thank You. (and then please shut-up. no seriously, say ‘thank-you” and then shut-up the next self-deprecating comment–even if it is only to yourself inside your head – DON’T SAY IT).
Hey you, xoxoxo and big hugs. sometimes saying “shut-up” is a good thing.
You are amazing. You are such a fabulous and beautiful soul. You really really are.
And this is where you say…